"Thinking about it makes it worse," Shanice confessed. "If I get too bad, I have to wrap my whole head up and squeeze up tight until I can relax."
Rule one. Do not judge. Rule two. Do not belittle.
"Thanks for sharing that," she began. "I'd like to help, and I'm not certain about how. Is it okay to try some stuff?"
"Sure." Shanice expanded from her huddle a little. "But how?"
"Let's start with… what else makes you feel safe?"